This isn’t my first time getting started with the fitness program, but it’s still just as scary. I’ve worked with a personal trainer and completed a 3 month weightlifting program before, and even with two workouts done, I’m still getting the same butterflies for starting this.
What’s so scary about starting something new?
I don’t know for sure, but here are a few guesses:
- Fear of change in general: while I’m not doing anything drastic, the thought of going home and having to MOVE instead of laying around and doing my usual YouTube binge is a bit daunting, I’ll miss being able to be lazy
- Will it be worth it: I’m the type of person who will look at 20 pages of reviews even before buying a mascara because I worry about buying the wrong thing. You could say I’m pretty risk-averse and research-intensive. I’m worried that even if I do all the work, will it be worth it? What if I don’t reach my goals and it will have been a waste of effort?
- Laziness: this ties into both of the above, but I like being lazy since I know what the result will be. Even if it’s not my ideal body, I know what it will be like and there is some comfort in that
- Not finishing what I started: Many others have this too, but there is a lack of confidence that comes from not being able to finish something. There are a few projects I never completed, and every time I look at their half-finished results sitting in my closet, it’s an embarrassing reminder of how much I suck at staying committed. I think one reason I’m afraid of starting is that I’m afraid I’ll give up yet again and deal with that constant reminder every time I look at my bod
Before you begin anything, I think it’s important to figure out what’s keeping you from doing it. First I wrote down some of my fears from above, next I’ll try to break them down and rationalize them. Sometimes you can come back at your fears with logic, other times come back at it with an even bigger fear if that’s what motivates you:
- Change is always scary, but also always happening: sadly, your body will be changing anways, it actually has a natural progression to get worse as you age so your bad habits are still actively having an impact whether you realize it or not. 30-60 minutes working out or 30-60 minutes scrolling Instagram will both have an impact, time to decide what it will be. Also half an hour isn’t that bad to have a killer body
- Will it be worth it –> opportunity cost of NOT doing it: sometimes you get to a point where you’re just tired of looking at yourself, so it the chance of living out your dreams and gaining confidence along the way worth it? Even taking that opportunity is. Maybe one day you won’t even have the physical ability to do anything and you’ll definitely regret it then!
- Laziness –> keep it simple and easy: even though you know the result of being lazy, is that the result you want? Is that the result you’re happy with? You can be lazy, sure. No need to go train for a marathon or spend hours for a bodybuilding competition, take the easy route and just add a few movements during convenient parts of your day. Like they say in marketing Keep It Simple, Stupid! (KISS) Do even just 1 pushup if that’s all you can
- Not finishing what I started –> plan to keep going: this one is hard, but remember the times you DID finish what you started? How did that feel? This is a problem everyone has – think how much cooler things would be if people would be able to stick it through their ideas? Luckily a few game-changers in the world have. Confidence comes from action, not just belief in yourself, so keep going. Two things that help keep your momentum are
- 1) having a very strong WHY you’re doing what you’re taking on
- 2) using Recovery Rituals to get yourself back on track when you fall off
As much as starting sucks, that’s usually always the hardest part. The second hardest part will be finishing, but that usually ends up being easier once you’ve begun. It’s like Newton’s First Law of Motion, an object will stay at rest until you force it to move, and an object in motion will stay moving until a force slows/stops it. It’s hard to get started, but once you go, keep going.
Whether it’s a wellness journey or starting a business, the fear that comes with getting started can be scary enough to keep you from even taking the first step. But by addressing your fears directly and breaking them down, you can out-think your fears and actually get started. It’s not as scary as it seems once you get going.